Is it time to re-write your life story

"the fun and easy way to change your future is to change your past"

Ask any police officer and he will tell you that if two or more people witness a crime, they will probably all see something different. Why is that? It's because of how we interpret what we see. We interpet with our emotions and feelings. We are not cold calculating computers, we are living organisms (ok I first typed orgasims, Freudian slip me thinks). Unless, we are highly trained in observing, our brain seems to always want to fill in the blanks for us. Many times the thoughts we fill in are inaccurate.

Our lives stories are made up of our past experiences and how we interpret them. For instance, let's suppose your life story tells you that you were abused by a parent as a child. Different people could take away a different interpretation. One might say to himself, the old man beat me up for no reason at all, he never loved me. Another might remember it as, I was a difficult child and probably deserved it, it didn't harm me and it probably did me some good. Still another might tell herself the story, I think Mom was suffering from mental illness, she probably did her best but her best wasn't very good.

Another thing to consider is that the story you remember may be inaccurate to start with. Particularily if your story happened when you were a young child. Young children frequently get the story wrong, they remember vividly the hurt but interpret the source or reason for the hurt through the eyes of a child. Certain images or words may be clear as a bell in their brains, but detail is missing. Something else may have happened that they were unaware of at that young age. Then again, maybe the incident they recalled was accurate but that doesn't mean you can't change the intrepretation now that you are an adult.

My point is that you decided on the interpretation of that bad happening. What most don't seem to grasp is that you can at any time change your interpretation to one that doesn't control or contain you, from growing into something greater. We are all creative beings and if we choose we can quickly change our life story to one that allows us, to be all that we are capable of.

We simply must let go of any part of our past that we previously allowed to become an anchor on our lives. It is a sin to let our past dictate our future unless our past serves to enable us.

So the logical thing to do when you find yourself looking back and feeling that anchor on your life is to say to yourself....that's my old story, I'm changing that!

It's sad that we let some past hurt, bury our future and yet it happens all the time. Also, pay keen attention to the payoffs you get from hanging onto to past hurts and heartaches. Do you feel sorry for yourself? Do others feel sorry for you? Has it become a convenient excuse to not try? Does it serve you in any way?

The most important question to ask yourself is, am I ready to let it go? And am I ready to let it go now? If the answer is yes, lucky you, take a deep breath and imagine letting it go. You'll feel lighter for doing it.

The final step is to construct a new life story, maybe you'll end up with something like this.....I know Mom was a lousy parent, maybe she was abused as a child, I don't know but I'm grown up now and I've moved on. Can you even imagine how much better that would make you feel?

Treat yourself with respect and appreciation for all you've been through, it's time to claim the future that you deserve. The courage you need is within you, write yourself a new story.

Smile, you are much stronger and more resilient than you think!

Eduardo