Got Problems?

4 Steps To a Peaceful Problem Free Life

Does your day ever start like this? The phone rings and the person on the other end of the line begins yelling at you about something you haven't even thought of ? Anger builds as you exchange words and you end up wondering what just happened? Don't you wish you had a magic wand to instantly end that stress? What would it be worth to end all that kind of stuff?

It happened to me about three weeks ago, and while listening to the person scream, I mentally "did the process" and let her continue. Less than 30 minutes later, she called back and apologized saying she "didn't know what came over her" and we haven't argued since! That is saying a lot because we talk several times daily every day. Why is something so simple so powerful? But then again, dynamite comes in small packages and this amazed me so much I wanted YOU to use it to solve your problems too.

I then tried "the process" on my weight and although I didn't feel any different, I've lost a pound a day for the last 14 days with no change in diet or exercise habits. I did the process on the couple upstairs two nights ago, and they stopped arguing almost instantly! My hip and lower back pain that I've had for the last 9 years is GONE after only 3 uses of "the process" on it. Would you do "the process" to get rid of most of your problems and stress?

The 4 steps are;

(1) I'm so sorry
(2) Please forgive me
(3) thank you and
(4) I love you.

That's IT-- plain and simple and OH so powerful. It's based on the thought that we are 100% responsible for everything in our lives-- no exception. If it's IN your life, YOU caused it, or more accurately, "attracted" it with your thoughts, words and action "seeds" you planted some time in your past. Since you are 100% responsible, YOU have 100% free choice to do something about it! The truly beautiful part is the others involved don't even need to know you do it! When you "do" the process, you're talking to God, the creative force of the universe, or whatever else you call it. Since these steps are the "core" of beliefs in almost every single culture in the world, it doesn't matter if you're Baptist, Methodist, Catholic, Muslim, Atheist or what-- it WORKS! Do you have to "figure out" what the problem is to use the process? No. Also, there is NO blame, No judgment, No "it's your fault", absolutely nothing negative at all involved. How beautiful is that? In fact, you will end up being so peaceful, happy, and totally satisfied, it will absolutely amaze you and others will notice the change in you too!



It's known as Ho Oponpono, (which means "to make right" or "to fix") the ancient Hawaiian healing process. Aren’t the Hawaiians among the happiest people on earth? Don't dismiss this because of its lack of "scientific" analysis or long ceremony when you could easily solve all your problems and be peaceful, happy and stress free. You take Aspirin because it WORKS, not because of the "scientific studies".

It's known that the forces of gratitude, love and forgiveness are the most powerful forces on the planet. Do yourself a big favor and DO the process. Do it silently in your mind DURING the problem, if you need to, and even use only parts at times, as your "insides" tell you to, but DO the process. It works.



I call it the "HO" for short. I don't want to waste time with names and details because it’s worked perfectly for me every time. I guess you could say I'm using the "HO" to get the weeds out of the garden of my life.

Aloha

David Carter (Chappy)

Note from Eduardo

I have a strong interest in this subject after reading ZERO LIMITS by Joe Vitale. My new friend Chappy has contributed many great comments so I asked him to be my first guest writer. I believe he did an excellent job and I thank him for that. I hope you enjoyed it as well.

Eduardo

"Secrets of making people like you"

"I want to share with you the secrets to making people like you"

That was the title of one of those junk emails I got on the weekend. For a small sum you too could become one of those fortunate people who others can't resist. You'll be able to choose a partner from the most beautiful people in the world. You will not only have an abundance of friends but promotions and success will come easy and naturally for you. It's your destiny, so act quickly. All this and so much more, and all for a less than a cup of coffee at Starbucks for one week!

Sounded pretty good but then I already have a lot of friends so I saved my coffee money and went to see my good friend GOOGLE. There I found hundreds of pages with similar advice for FREE.

I learned a lot of neat stuff like;

* look for ways to compliment others
* be an interesting person
* make sure you shower each day
and lot's of other good points for me to consider

I could give you a list of another 100 good points to attract people to you but here at the Truthteller site I want you to have the ultimate fun and easy method. So here is the secret revealed.....

"the secret to making people like you is....to love yourself first"

Think about it!

And as an added bonus (and at no additional cost) here are two more of my never fail techniques to get people to like you...

1. Buy a pick up truck....sooner or later everyone needs a friend with a truck to help them move something.

2. Show up at a outdoor activity on a really hot summer day with a box of ice cold beer!

Glad I could be here for you!

Eduardo

It was right in front of you!

I love it when I get emails and comments that say something like....I was just thinking about some topic and I went on the internet and stumbled upon the Truthteller site.

Someone, somewhere is thinking about something I've just written about and finds the site, how cool is that? Serendipity? It's exciting to me when out of the billions of pages written and posted on the internet, you found my little corner of the internet.

So what is my point? It's that we find what we look for in life. The answers and information you want are always available to you. What you concentrate on becomes your reality.

Five months and 175 articles ago, I started writing this blog. I decided that I would base it on life was meant to be fun, easy and over-flowing with abundance. And guess what? Once I started, I just kept finding and coming up with information and ideas to support my new made up belief!

Everything I needed was out there, I just had to open myself up to the belief and voila, there it was....right in front of me!

I think the happiest people on the planet, must be those who choose to believe in something that is simple and always empowering (like God is love). And if they can't find a religion, philosophy or belief that suits what feels right to them, they make up their own. Once that belief is set, you start stumbling upon the ideas and information to support that belief...it's amazing!

It's a wonderful world...if you will let it be!

Eduardo

Wow, fat people are contagious and why that's a good thing?

In another of those fascinating research studies just reported in the New England Medical Journal, it was reported that if you hang out with fat people you stand a good chance of becoming fat yourself!

When I read the reports of this study I rejoiced!

This study went on to say that if your best friend was fat, then you had a 50 percent increase in the chances of you becoming fat. So why does this make me happy?

It's not because my friends are all skinny. No, I have a few chubby friends who I really like. It's because it reminds me of the importance of who you allow to become your friends.

Obviously, this goes beyond obesity in terms of what is contagious. There must be many positive attributes you pick up from the people you associate with. I'm thinking if you hang out with really nice positive friends then you will become a nicer more optimistic person yourself. Phew, good thing I already have incredible friends!

And of prime importance to Eduardo is that I have a fun life, and guess what my friends are quite happy people as well (some are even a little saner than me, so maybe that will rub off on me).

As well what we read must contagious! So I'm betting that if you are a regular visitor I've probably infected you with some of my brand of happiness? Scary huh?

Eduardo

What inspires you?

"inspiration and genius--one of the same"
Victor Hugo

Just thinking about what inspires us? Here is a partial list of the more common things that inspire us;

*God
*nature
*people
*music
*films and books
*our kids
*films and books
*writing this blog inspires me

"each day becomes more meaningful when your actions are guided by what inspires you"

I'm thinking that in order for us to be able to claim that something or someone inspires us, that would mean that the souce of inspiration caused us to make some sort of change. In other words if it doesn't move us to take action, it can hardly be called inspiration.

So what inspires you?

Eduardo

Go gently...

go gently in this world
like the cool summer breeze
that refreshes

be as open to inspiration
as the flower is
to the morning sun

make no more effort
than the river
on its journey to the sea

be not fixated
on the destination
for that is the end

it is the journey
that is to be enjoyed
and cherished

your destiny
is free will
just say thank you

live without effort
carry no burden
for none is necessary

know that life is
meant to be fun, easy
and over-flowing with abundance

Eduardo

I've been thinking about goals...

"I've had lots of goals in my life....almost all of them where never achieved"

I've pretty much given up on setting goals, until recently. That was until I had several epiphany's (check the spelling on that). One day it just dawned on me why I so rarely ever reached my goals. And the answer....I didn't have the required motivation to make the committment to reach them. I always started out with great intentions, but my desire just seemed to fade.

Then one day....eureka, I figured out why my motivation wasn't near strong enough. You see the self help people always advocate that you make goals that stretch your abilites but are logically and believably achievable. That's crap!

Reason number one is that by setting small goals you are also setting a limitation on yourself. You may achieve that goal, but no more!

Goals that stretch you a little are just not very exciting. It's just too easy to say to yourself...forget it, I'm just not motivated enough. This is similar to those New Years resolutions that we make and forget about 2 weeks later. But don't despair....it's the Truthteller to the rescue with the secret behind motivation!

"only goals that are unrealistic, have the motivational magic to move us towards high level of success"

Now a really big unrealistic goal, that has power to motivate. Think about the would be athlete that dreams about playing in the big leagues. The kid who dreams about being the next Michael Jordon or Tiger Woods, will be motivated to work his tail off for many years.

If you think about those who have achieved great levels of success in any indeavor, they don't do it in small believable steps. They certainly were'nt realistic about what they wanted to do. Few believed in them but they didn't care, they were irrational.

If you aimed for the stars but all that you achieved was to be over the moon, hey that would be pretty cool (ok that was corny but its getting late)

So pleasant dreams amigos and....dream big!

Eduardo

Are you wound a little too tight?

Recently, I heard someone remark about another person that..."that guy is wound just a little too tight"
The comment was meant to describe a person who takes life just a little too serious. Someone who would benefit from letting go and perhaps having a little more fun.

So here are my top ways to know if you are wound a little too tight?

6. You fail to see the humor in a situation when others do.
5. You see problems instead of solutions.
4. You find it easy to laugh at others, but not at yourself.
3. You have an over-whelming desire to be right all the time.
2. Success is more important than happiness and love.

And the number one sign that you are wound too tight.....

This article annoys the heck out of you!

Eduardo

P.S. Smile, it looks good on you, plus it just might help you unwind!

Why you should not give to the poor?

"give a man a fish
and you have fed him for a day.
Teach a man to fish,
and you have fed him for a lifetime"

In my little corner of the world, we are experiencing a great increase in homeless people. There are great and noble programs to alleviate the situation. Sadly, I don't think they will be very successful.

Along with the homeless situation there is a dramatic increase in many forms of crime. Drugs, prostitution and break-ins to name a few. These are common problems in an area such as ours that is experiencing rapid growth.

If we continue to just use hand-outs to try and solve the problem, we will fail. The reason I believe is that the gift is not earned and therefore not appreciated. If we put a roof over a persons head and food in his belly at no cost, then other resouces frequently go to drugs and alcohol. In short, we are being used!

What needs to happen is to help people solve their problems and not just solve it for them. Sure we can have food banks and hostels, however we and the recipients would be much better served if there was something demanded in return. Something like community service. Picking up litter and maintaing the parks might be a good start. We'll gladly help you, if you will help yourself as well!

Yes, I realize that the people living on the street sometimes have mental health issues but I've seemed mentally challenged people happily doing jobs like cleaning or even working in a bottle depot.

In order for these people to make changes we have to allow them to have pride. Living off hand-outs is not pride inducing, its degrading. Our politically correct politicians need to get a back bone and demand something in return.

My little tirade is over and I know return you to my normal happy programming!

Eduardo

"Smile, it looks really good on you"

Do women talk too much?

And your answer is?

This just has to be wrong? A recent study says men talk even more than women! That goes against my sterotype image I have of women. Darn, there goes another male cherished belief. I guess the obvious next question is what do the different sexes talk about?

Hold on amigos, another study I just read about says females talk too much about the negative things in their lives frequently to the point of being counter-productive. Sure its good to vent and get things off your chest, however dwelling too long on any negative can lead to depression. Women find more comfort in sharing their misfortunes than do men. However, the study says that carried to extremes this can do more harm than good. This can be particulary damaging to teen girls.

So what do the men talk about most...inspiring things like philosophy, philanthropy and how to make the world a better place. Not buying that huh? How about sports, work, beer and women!

I'm starting to feel better....

And what does this all mean? As usual I haven't got a clue, I just found it interesting!

Eduardo

Ancient Hawaiian Healing

Is this snake oil, or could this heal the world?

Lately, there has been a lot written on the internet about the ancient Hawaiian healing technique know as Ho'oponopono. I have no idea whether it is valid, but I do like that word....Ho'oponopono!

It is described as a very simple way to heal yourself of negativity and the best part is you can Ho'oponopono others. Mental illness and crappy feelings and thoughts can be cured quickly and easily it is claimed. It is claimed to be a self cleansing technique that works for you and the others in your life. I have found no scientific studies to back the amazing claims.

Here is your 'coles notes' version of how this works. Let's imagine that someone you know is experiencing negative thoughts, like being really mad at you. You use these simple steps and voila....you are both healed! I could not find any timeline for the healing process but I assume it is fairly quick.

Just feel the negative thought or image and repeat the following in order:

"I'm sorry
Please forgive me
Thank you
I love you"

That's it! Can't get much simplier than that?

So for the next week, I'm going to be Ho'oponoponoing everyone I meet who I think has any negativity going on in their life. If I see someone who looks to be frustrated, mad, hurt, jealous, sad or disppointed....they are going to get Ho'oponoponed by Eduardo. And I expect to Ho'oponopono myself on occasion. (I don't plan to let people know what I'm doing...they might not understand)

I feel better just thinking about it, actually I just like saying...Ho'oponopono!

Eduardo

P.S. If you need some Ho'oponoponoing and you have no one, just send me an email and I'll gladly Ho'oponopono you over the internet!

Making life easier...

"A couple of unusual thoughts for you to consider"

1. The Fine Art of Quitting

It's not always the best idea to finish everything that you start. In fact you can waste a lot of time and give yourself needless aggravation if you finish everything. Let me give you some examples; suppose you are out to see a movie and it turns out to be really crappy. Should you sit through the whole thing and not enjoy it? I think you would be happier if you just quit the movie experience and left.
Suppose you are reading a novel and like wise you discover it doesn't hold your interest. Why bother completing it? Just quit.
Forget what mother told you about finishing everything on your plate. If you reach the point where you feel full, quit eating.
What if you were finishing a project around the home and discovered that you were not very good at it or you hated it. Better to quit and hire someone to do it.
Sometimes we are just too stubborn or full of pride to admit...we should just quit.

2. Learn to be difficult

Being assertive at the right time can help you get preferential treatment in life. I don't advocate being obnoxious, just assertive. Stand up for what you deserve, including good service. Demanding employees do a good job is good business. Demanding that children be respective is good parenting.

Well, what are your thoughts?

Eduardo

So which one of these are you?

This post was written by Scott Adams of the Dilbert Blog...enjoy!

Rounders Vs. Accumulators

Most people have at least a few big problems in their life. But the vast majority of life’s problems are the little kind. There are two ways to deal with the little problems.

ROUNDERS: This group rounds things off. A problem that’s a two on a scale of one to ten gets rounded to zero. If a rounder has five problems that are all about a two on a scale of one to ten, he’ll tell you he has no problems.

ACCUMULATORS: Accumulators add up all the little problems until they equal one big problem. If an accumulator has five problems that are each a two on a scale of one to ten, that feels like having one problem that’s a ten.

Rounders are generally happy, because they perceive their lives to be mostly problem-free. Accumulators are often miserable because “nothing is going right.”

Readers of this blog will recognize this as closely related to the 80-20 rule about a job well done. Rounders are pleased with a job that’s 80% right because that rounds to 100%. Accumulators take the 20% that’s wrong and add it to the other things that are wrong and suddenly their world is falling apart.

Experts say there are many forms of intelligence: verbal, spatial, musical, kinesthetic, artistic, emotional, etc. I don’t know if there’s a separate category for rounding versus accumulating, but there should be. Or maybe it is part of the larger category of simply knowing what is important and what isn’t.


Eduardo

"Unless your house burned down with the dog in it, and your spouse ran off with the mailman, your problems are probably not that big. And even then you could turn it into a country song."

What's bugging you?

I consider myself to be a very easy going guy, so I'm often surprised to see how small things appear to really bug others. A messy house, a nasty comment someone said, a promise broken or poor service, can really set some people off their day.

With some folks really minor things can put them into a foul mood. Logically, this makes no sense. Most stress (I think) is self-enduced. It's all in how you interpret an event. If you're thinking thoughts like....it just rips me apart when so and so said that nasty thing....then it's bound to be terribly upsetting. As opposed to saying to yourself, something like.....that certainly wasn't very nice, she must have some sort of problem to be talking like that.

So today, I'm thinking what would be a good test to determine if something was worth getting upset about? And the Truthteller answer is......

Will it matter a year from now?

I'm not suggesting that you just ignore every hurtful thing said, every promise broken, however it might be valuable to decide how upset you are going to let yourself become, or how long you going to hold onto your self-induced pain. People should to told when they've done you wrong but then 'let it go'.

As the book said...."don't sweat the small stuff, because it's all small stuff"

Now here is ironic part of what I just wrote! I'm thinking who is going to read this post? I have this image in my head, it is one that I've formed from the comments that I get as well as many emails. My impression is that if you are a regular visitor to this site then you are most likely to be above average intelligence, have a sense of humor and share a lot of the same values as I do. So most of what I've written here will hardly apply to you.....I must be writing about that annoying relative or co-worker of yours!

Eduardo

Imagination was given to man to compensate him for what he is not; a sense of humor to console him for what he is.
Francis Bacon

How to find your purpose in life?

"the purpose of life, is a life of purpose"

Finding one's calling or purpose should be everyone's priority in my humble estimation. It is through finding what you were put on this planet for that ultimately makes us most happy.

Everyone has a gift to share, some one thing that you do better than most others. It is in what you find easiest and most enjoyable, that holds the secret of your purpose of life. This is in line with the Truthteller philosophy that life is meant to be fun and easy. When you are doing something you love or feel passionate about then it is no longer work. This is when you can get lost in the task and lose track of time.

Here are some questions to ask yourself, if you want to find your purpose;

* What gives me pleasure (no not that)
* What am I good at, and that comes easy to me?
* What do I feel passionate about?

One thing is certain; if you don't look for your purpose, it's certain that you won't find it.

Eduardo

"oh, you hate your job?
Why didn't you say so?
There's a support group for that...
it's called EVERYBODY...
and they meet at the bar!"
Drew Carey

And how will you know when you've found your life purpose....it will make you happy!

The Principal of Least Action

It's offical.....The Truthteller philosophy of, 'life was meant to be fun, easy and over-flowing with abundance, is supported by science!

I just finished reading Fred Gratzon's excellent new book called...The Lazy Way to Success. Fred is one smart guy and the book is simple, easy to read and full of terrific thoughts on developing a happy successful life (the lazy way).

The part that really got my attention was the above stated 'Principal of Least Action' My understanding of the principal is that nature always takes the quickest most efficient and effortless path. So no energy is wasted, ever. Nature always chooses the least amount of doing or as Fred says...nature is lazy!

This theory is based on mathematical forms. As an example when you throw a ball in the air, it doesn't zig zag all over the place. Instead it chooses the path that requires the least amount of energy. Gravitation does the work, if you could call it that.

So it occurs to me that we should mimic nature and always choose the direction that requires the least action. In other words SIMPLIFY! Eliminate the unnecessary tasks and get straight to the good stuff; the stuff that creates abundance and happiness.

Mother nature doesn't give a hoot what people think, it just goes about its business of choosing the path of least action. There is real beauty in simplicity (and less work).

The best way to reduce work in your job is to make it fun. I'm always joking around with clients and they like it. It also builds a bond and I think a trust. Therefore, they want to have dealings with me and given the opportunity will choose my services. This means less work for me. I like less work and more fun.

Doing a job you love is less work, and can feel like not working at all.

Smile, and go see if you can find a way to incorporate 'The Principal of Least Action'

Eduardo

P.S. Here's a quote worth writing down and saving....
"Il fait trop bean pour travailler"
It means...'its too nice to work'