Guilty pleasures
"it's all a sham....we were meant to be happy"
Our society is one that idealizes the virtues of the pleasureless. Since we were kids we have been conditioned to believe that hard work, sacrifice and restraint are essential to a successful life. Society has condemned and in some cases even made pleasures illegal. They sucked the fun right out of life!
It's occurred to me that that this funless life they want us to live is a means of controlling us. The harder they can get the less fortunate to work, the greater rewards for the ruling class. The wealthy have always had their guilty pleasures, they just don't want everyone to get in on it. Great for the ruling class, crappy for the underlings.
Somehow we need to break the old mentality. Fun and easy is good, needs to replace hard and difficult. We need to recognize that we can have it all and we don't need to fall for those despicable lies like; keep your nose to the grindstone, the only way ahead is sacrifice and in order for you to win someone has to lose. Bullcrap!
The first step in changing this mentality is to put yourself fully into some former guilty pleasure. I care not if you get off on chocolate, wine or sex. The next time you decide to indulge....really get into it. Savour the moment and tell yourself it is not only good for, it is essential to your well being. It is the first and essential step towards a better life. Let your subconsious know that you deserve the good stuff. Learn to enjoy to the max, its important.
Now if you will excuse me there is a lemon pie waiting for me!
Eduardo
posted by Edward McBeth at
10:10 AM
3 Comments:
There was a time in my life that I was a guilt magnet. I was taught the same things that you wrote about, I guess we all were. I had to learn how to play and it was pretty hard because I didn't have a clue what I even liked to do. I tried on a lot of things and learned a lot about myself. I found that I hated bowling, running, most forms of exercise,ect., ect., ect. I decided that if I had to make myself do it then I wasn't having fun. If it didn't help someone else and if it was just for me I felt guilty. After all wasn't I being selfish and that was the worst thing I could do? It is no accident that I became a nurse 30 years ago. Today serving others has taken on a whole new meaning. It is fun when I do it and I am retired from nursing so everything I do for others is for love and for free. I have found that my hearts desire is helping others find freedom from alcoholism and addiction and watching them get their lives back is just so damn much fun. I wish we all could find our hearts desires, then no one would ever have to work again.
I like your thinking Gracie! You've carried the converstation to a new level.
So few people realize that the real fun in life is serving others. Our materialistic consumer driven world hasn't done much to make people happy.
Your right about alot of us being taught that gracie! It is hard to allow something to bring us pleasure when it's "all about me"! I too am still learning that its "OK" to take care of myself sometimes, that I will be better for it! Great post Edward!! I need to post something like this on my mirror as a reminder each morning! It's easy to forget because sometimes life gets in the way! ;)
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